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Sunday 12 June 2016

Here's my Sunday morning. What did you do?

Sat in my flat watching Sunday brunch I heard a bit of a commotion outside. There were some quite loud bangs and loud speaking. I looked out the window to see someone on the phone. I heard him describing someone being in a manic state and thought I would go down to see if there was anything I could do to help. This is what I found and what happened afterwards..... Two men, one on the phone and one in a very hyper manic state bouncing up and down and throwing things out of a bag and in a talking really quickly and raising his voice asking where his phone is. The guy on the phone got off the phone fairly quickly and then seemed to dismiss me fairly quickly. I started walking back into my flats and wondered if they had called the phone to see if they could hear it ringing. There was no sound. I asked if it would, be on silent and was told that he was not allowed to have his film on silent. The other gentleman said something and said "I'll go and get him" then whilst I was still on the other end of the ringing phone he shot off in the rain. The man that I as left with it appeared, has some mental condition. I didn't think it was right that the guy who was clearly disturbed and upset was left on his own so when I got off the phone I started chatting to him and managed to get him to sit on the floor and try to calm down. I sat on the floor next to him and we just did small talk. He then said something that stopped me in my tracks. He told me that he had just been diagnosed with stage four mouth cancer and he had been given 3 months to live. He was worried about being able to tell his mother and daughter. He didn't want them to hear it from someone else. if it weren't for his daughter he said he would have killed himself 3 days ago....... All that was going through my head was "What the fuck do I say to that" 10 minutes later this emergency response vehicle still hasn't arrived. I asked where they had been and where he might have left his phone. I was told that they had been on Mcdonalds and in a local pub. I got the phone number for both of these places off the internet and called Mcdonalds and then called the pub. When they asked what phone it was my heart dropped. It's a Samsung S4 in black. I instantly thought there is no fucking chance that's coming back. It's smart phone so some bastard would have seen it and picked it up and vanished off with it. I spent about an hour sat on the floor against the wall with this guy and all I kept thinking was, just keep him calm. We talked about loads of things and my head kind of went blank when he asked if I had heard about the thing down the road when someone with mental problems attacked some care workers with an axe simply because he wasn't comfortable. This it seems could have turned much more interesting.... Just keep him calm. He said don't worry I'm calm in in his what seemed to me to be a bit of a hyper speed manic way and I told him it's all cool and if I was worried I wouldn't still be sat crossed legged on the floor with him. In truth my heart was racing a little after what he said but It would have been counter productive to do anything other than be calm on the outside. After all emotions are contagious. He carried on talking to me and told me about his mother, daughter, wife, sisters and his ex communicated brother. I asked why he was ex communicated and he said it's his fault that his mother is in a wheel chair and oh yeah, his mother is close to death too. His wife was with him when he found out about the three month problem but his eleven year old daughter didn't know yet. He was going to tell her later that day but he was now worried that he was going to be sectioned and end his days that way. If that happened it would be a lot harder to tell his daughter himself. What do you say? 40 minutes later the emergency response vehicle still hasn't arrived. He told me he didn't think that the ambulance was going to come because he didn't believe that the first guy had called them. He said it's the first time he has seen him in 2 years and he only asked to meet up because he heard that he had come into a bit of an inheritance windfall. He was told in the pub that he won't be giving him any of the money he received. The first guy lost interest in speaking to him after that apparently. The ambulance should be here and the police will come with them. Why will the police be coming too? The police will be here because I am regarded as a danger to myself. There's that heart racing again....... After about an forty minutes the first guy appeared again on his own and said he couldn't find the person he was looking for and said he would go and try in the graveyard...... AND WHY THE FUCK NOT? Carried on chatting and about 15 minutes afterwards he appeared with the person who he was looking for. I said good morning and other than that was pretty much blanked by both of them. Once they had both been there for about thirty seconds the first guy vanished off asap. After about 3 mins I made sure the new guy was alright with him and it turns out that he is the guys step brother. I asked if everything was good and got up and left. I'm feeling quite empty. This guy has the world on his shoulders at the moment and I don't know how I would cope in his position. Do you? Be kind to people. You never know when you are going to be in that situation yourself. Pay it forward. If you can't be kind to other people then maybe you should take a look at why. Frazer